Monday, December 26, 2011

Infertility resource

During our struggle with infertility, I felt misunderstood by my friends, and often alone, wishing I could share with someone who understood.
I've thought several times about 2 of my great aunts who were also never able to have biological children, and wish that I'd been able to talk to them. One of them passed away when I was a freshman in college, and I didn't get to say goodbye to her, which stills grieves me. She was married but never had children. The other passed away while we were in the process of adopting Lilli, I think. She and my uncle adopted 2 boys in the 1960's.
I did come across an infertility support resource through Bethany Christian Services called Stepping Stones. It's a newsletter that comes either 4 or 6 times a year, but they also have a website . There are articles and poems written by women struggling with infertility, discussions about adoption, IVF, embryo donation, surrogacy, etc. I always found myself wishing the newlsetter was longer, because it seemed like the authors really knew how I was feeling, that they had been where I was.
Now I belong to several groups for support- mostly adoption support now, but even so, most of us in these groups have been through some, if not all, of the same struggles to become parents. It's really refreshing to be able to speak candidly about what I've been through or how I felt during those times.
We've continued to support this ministry since adopting Lilli. They also have a special section in the back where people can give a financial gift in honor of a child- whether a child lost, born, or adopted. We donated after we brought Lilli home, and they sent us an extra issue as a keepsake.
If you or someone you know is struggling with infertility, I highly recommend Stepping Stones.

2 comments:

Leah said...

I also received Stepping Stones and loved it. A great resource.

Auntie Lori said...

April, Don't forget to check out the Redbook article..."The truth about trying". I put a link on your facebook page.